The number one reason to get married is because of love. We believe that love is the be all and end all. However, it was not that long ago that marriage served other functions, such as to unite families and acquire properties. A marriage is a partnership designed to produce and I’m not necessarily talking about children. This production can be something in our families, communities, world, or even in the kingdom of God. Think of your marriage as a seed.
So what does the devil care about your marriage?
In Peter 5: 8 –11 it reads – Be sober, be viligilant, because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion walketh about, seeking whom he may devour. Whom resist stedfast in the faith knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.
But the God of all grace, who hath called us into his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a awhile, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.
To Him be glory and dominon for ever and ever. Amen.
The enemy wants to destroy your marriage, your seed because otherwise you may produce an impact in your family, your community, or your church, or advance the kingdom of God.
Here is a question to ponder: Do we act like people at war?
Are we fighting for our marriages? Or are we just trusting that it will work itself out.
Marriage takes work. It is easy to get on auto pilot and forget about your partner, but the following are some things you can do to defend your relationship:
1- Open and honest communication. Just talking is not communication. We need to take time to hear and attend to what our partner is saying. We have to be willing to hear where we are coming up short in the relationship without being defensive.
2- Figure out what your partner recognizes as love and then practice it. Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a great book to help you figure out your love language as well as your partner’s love language. Please see book below.
3- Develop a spiritual practice that you can participate in as a family. It is great to pray for your spouse and say grace at dinner, but does your family have other practices that help you grow as couple. For instance, morning prayer or time dedicated to family devotions.
In the weeks to come, we will explore more strategies to war for your marriages.